How to move beyond small talk: a step-by-step guide

How to move beyond small talk: a step-by-step guide

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Have you ever found yourself at an event stuck answering boring questions like “what do you do?” or “where are you from?” and wondering what to talk about next?

I call this the Small Talk Trap.

At first, everything seems to be going well, but after a few basic questions the conversation stalls. Due to my introversion, I often found myself talking to extroverts and stuck in the Small Talk Trap. As a result, my conversations would fizzle. Eventually, the other person would say something like, “Okay… nice to meet you…” while walking away.

It took me a lot of reading and some uncomfortable experimentation to find a way out of the Small Talk Trap. Today, I want to share the simple system I use to get to an interesting conversation.

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How to Socialize More If You Are an Introvert Freshman?

NOTE: This is a guest post from an author who I hope you will agree, knows introverts!

How to Socialize More If You Are an Introvert Freshman?

For most people, parties, lunches and weddings conjure up images of mouth-watering food, interesting people and a relaxing time. For some, such social events resemble nightmares.

Are you tired of watching social butterflies (or moths) flit from one group to another exuding confidence? At this time, you grip your glass and grit your teeth painfully waiting for the second-hand to tick by slowly.

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Does the Early Bird Really Get the Worm?

Maybe you’ve thought about becoming a morning person? Or like me, you are one? There’s an earlier blogpost with numerous tips to know how you can be more of an early riser.

This post is a combination of an original infographic and post by Brittany Thompson originally appearing on  This infographic takes a look at the Early Bird versus the Night Owl regarding success in careers and how they live their lives. Some studies show that morning people may be more successful in careers, yet night owls are more intelligent and creative gaining that advantage over their morning loving peers.

If you would like to know if more introverts or extroverts are morning people can you help with taking this 30-second quiz. Please share the quiz too, and I’ll report out the findings.

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#RomanceAwareness Month: Are Introverts Hard To Love?

We’re winding down this month’s theme around romance.

As synchronicity would have things Michaela Chung‘s recent email to her subscribers, of which I am one, spoke to me to reach out to her to offer some of her thoughts about loving introverts. Here is an article just for you, by her:

#RomanceAwareness Month: Are Introverts Hard To Love?

I am an introvert. I have loved both introverts and extroverts.

And yet, I often feel like it’s difficult for others to know how to love me.

Don’t get me wrong.  We introverts are indeed loveable, and I know that I am no exception.  The thing is, people often go about loving introverts in all the wrong ways.

Whenever I think of one of my extroverted exes, a particular image comes to mind.  I imagine that I am a little blue bird in the palm of his hands. He is trying to show me affection, but ends up smothering me with his large clumsy hands. He doesn’t know that you can’t hold on too tightly to an introvert.  We need space to spread our wings.  introvert-holding-hands

I don’t blame him.  Nor do blame the countless people I’ve met who don’t understand how to love an introvert. Extroverts have no frame of reference for our behaviour. Our needs are foreign to them, and our subtle ways of expressing them are easily misunderstood.  

Unfortunately, these misunderstandings can lead introverts to believe we are just too different, or quiet, or sensitive to love.  This is far from true.

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2 Ways Introvert Personality May Impact Career Goals and what to do

This article came from one of the many introvert authors or coaches I connect with online. Rather than my weekly round-up – find your introvert freedom this weekend with Dorothy Tannahill-Moran’s insights on:

2 Ways Introvert Personality May Impact Career Goals and what to do

If you’re reading this, chances are you are an Introvert, or think you are. That probably means you have some idea of specific behaviors associated with your personality.

The question I would like you to ponder about your personality is: When or where is your introversion creating issues in your career?

I believe it’s important for you to understand as much as you can about your Introvert personality. I also think you need to have awareness of where it might not be serving you so you can pursue meaningful improvements.

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