How to move beyond small talk: a step-by-step guide

How to move beyond small talk: a step-by-step guide

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Have you ever found yourself at an event stuck answering boring questions like “what do you do?” or “where are you from?” and wondering what to talk about next?

I call this the Small Talk Trap.

At first, everything seems to be going well, but after a few basic questions the conversation stalls. Due to my introversion, I often found myself talking to extroverts and stuck in the Small Talk Trap. As a result, my conversations would fizzle. Eventually, the other person would say something like, “Okay… nice to meet you…” while walking away.

It took me a lot of reading and some uncomfortable experimentation to find a way out of the Small Talk Trap. Today, I want to share the simple system I use to get to an interesting conversation.

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How to Socialize More If You Are an Introvert Freshman?

NOTE: This is a guest post from an author who I hope you will agree, knows introverts!

How to Socialize More If You Are an Introvert Freshman?

For most people, parties, lunches and weddings conjure up images of mouth-watering food, interesting people and a relaxing time. For some, such social events resemble nightmares.

Are you tired of watching social butterflies (or moths) flit from one group to another exuding confidence? At this time, you grip your glass and grit your teeth painfully waiting for the second-hand to tick by slowly.

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How To Use A Reward System For Successful Goal Setting

My traditional goal setting started in my corporate working days, decades ago! You likely know the kind of goals: SMARTY goals. Then, I discovered, How To Use A Reward System For Successful Goal Setting

Do you know what kind of goal setting SMARTY is? Do you set goals this way?

Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-bound, Yours

If this kind of goal setting is working for you, this is fabulous. Do stay with it. Rarely, did it work for me. I had to find a different way.

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Are You One Habit Away from Easily Reaching Your Goal?

Are You One Habit Away from Easily Reaching Your Goal?One-Habit-Away-from-Easily-Reaching-Your-Goal

Setting goals works!One-Habit-Away-from-Easily-Reaching-Your-Goal

I’d bet most or some the goals you set to achieve, are a more specific outcome, right?

More money, a new and bigger house, lose weight, be more fit. Goals like these usually come to mind when most people think about goal setting.

And this type of goal usually revolves around a situation in our lives we want to change. They are what we could call outcome-based goals.

But a different type of goal, which focuses on changing behaviors, makes achieving an outcome-based goal both easier and faster!

Here is what it means to have a behavior-based goal:

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Steps To Turn Daily Focus into Successful Goal Achievement

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We know that goal-oriented people are mostly successful, happier, and more productive. But setting and keeping goals is a skill, and like any skill, there are good and better ways to doing it.

One thing you might find helpful is separating your goals into behavior-based and outcome-based models. There are a few differences between the two, and knowing which is which can be key.

Steps To Turn Daily Focus into Successful Goal Achievement

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