Top BS Facts about Introvert Experiences You Might Think Are True

One of my weaknesses, even with knowing it is a totally useless way to be or act, is judging who I am by comparing myself to others. Do you ever get that way? As I regularly say about it, it’s a win-lose proposition. This can only add to the top BS facts about introvert experiences you might think are true.

That’s my sign to take some additional time to get my head and heart cleared. And, get happy.

Award winning photo by Christopher Weber

Award winning photo by Christopher Weber

The clearing started to lift yesterday afternoon after just a few hours of being down on myself, in my head of course.

With every good intention to write a couple of blog posts to queue up since I am traveling next week, the venom of judging myself delayed me until getting in a better space. That’s when I realized it could be because of BS facts about introvert experiences. Experiences you might think are true.

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Too Busy? Try 3 Tips To Streamline Your Blog Title

Help 1Sometimes the title or headline for content that pops into my mind, just doesn’t work. It may not work for the people I want to attract to read my blog, it may not work for getting my post found online and it may not work for me.

In addition to the title dilemma, it can be the frustration what do I write about today?

Yikes. Either nothing comes up or too many ideas noodle around in my head.

Feeling compelled to systematize my blogging subjects (so many of my readers have blogged about how they do this and it inspired me) was my first step toward making the idea and title part of the process easier.

While the topic list is ever evolving, one of the top factors most things have to include for me is, it has to be fun. I’m too old to do anything which excludes having fun. Fun is one of my top five values.

Presuming you might have similar thoughts about blog post ideas or blog post titles, these tips might help you streamline crafting your blog title or even email subject.[Continue Reading...]

4 Specifics to Celebrate for Introvert Freedom


Copyright, Christopher Lee Weber

With the spirit of the July 4th holiday we are celebrating in the USA, it got me wondering, how is an introvert free?

Are we free from something or free to something?

The holiday is all about independence and freedom but the political nature of freedom is a topic for a different blog. As I started researching freedom it was quite evident this is a huge topic. What Price Freedom,,a blog post by Julia Barnickle, states people when asked to identify their top value will mostly say, freedom.

In looking at my own list of top five values while I didn’t find the specific word, it is obvious my values are centered in freedom.

It just might be true that in some way, we all value freedom.

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5 Tips To Understand and Get Out of LinkedIn Group Posting Jail

LinkedIn Top ContributorFortunately I was visiting with family and focused on enjoying our time together when I got this surprise about my LinkedIn “group posting status” appearing across any and all my pages.

The message in a blue box, on the right side of every page read, “Your posts are now being moderated group wide.” Group Wide Auto Moderation or GWAM.

What?! The groups where I contribute actively, that contribution scale on the right of the window will show “Top Contributor.”

The message of posts being moderated brought on feelings of surprise, frustration and even anger. This last feeling after I tracked down the LinkedIn explanation which is specifically vague. After all, if you don’t know what caused the problem how can you fully correct it and recover.

It almost felt I was given a jail sentence.

Another blogger, Jen Dewar, used the term SWAM, “site wide auto moderation” in a post on her blog, “Help! I’ve been SWAM’d on LinkedIn! Actually many people refer to that term.

I believe more appropriately it’s GWAM because you are still able to post LinkedIn status updates. But whether it’s SWAM or GWAM it is certainly something to track down, act on and correct. Here are 5 tips to understand and be able to get out of LinkedIn group posting jail.

It can be because of one contribution to just one group that LinkedIn does not identify for the accused, which marked as spam or flagged irrelevant.

For me it was hard to say how recent the post was. It could have been years ago since people often jump on posts that go back as far as I’ve seen to 5 years ago.

You know the kind of perpetual posts I mean: highly popular and evergreen content posts or a post that is the moderators invitation to promote yourself in some way.

Only two possibilities in the LinkedIn help explain why a “group wide auto moderation” status message would appear everywhere once you log in:[Continue Reading...]

Introverts unique power tools in selling


from Patricia Weber video

So many people’s encouragement saying that I was “a natural,” steered my early career path to sales.


All these years later, I still don’t understand how we can be natural at selling. I do know selling is something I continue to learn and use. The corporate America sales training was invaluable although not entirely by today’s standards, because of how so much has changed.

If I understood then the relationship between sales and personality type as reported now, it’s likely I would have preferred to book an appointment with my dentist then move into selling.

We don’t see many people steering introverts into a sales career. Even though we have so many of the skills the potential customers crave for and don’t often find with a seller.

If there was any personality to sales relationship talk way back then, I was oblivious to anything related to introvert and extrovert differences and preferences.

You may think, “I’m not a salesperson, what would I need to understand about selling?”

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Introverts “on the level” approach to negotiation success

from Patricia Weber video at

from Patricia Weber video at

One editor reviewing my book commented on chapter eight: “Negotiations is something which brings out the confidence out in the open and right in front of you.”


Chapter 8 of Communication Toolkit for Introverts is all about using more of what the introvert has going for them than not, for better outcomes in win-win negotiations.

Negotiations happen everyday in business.

Maybe you want a bigger salary.

Or you have your eye on a corner office.

You have a conflict with someone else who wants to take vacation the same time you do.

What comes to your mind as an everyday business negotiation?

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Introverts can put down the axe to grind for conflict management

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Image courtesy of bplanet /

Learning to deal with conflict is a continuing process for me. In most situations I take on the conflict head on, instead of ignoring it. It may be because I am an introvert, Italian, a combination or just slow learning.

In all my years in sales and sales management, there was enough axe grinding among co-workers to kill a forest.

It turns out, several studies point to manager’s spending a good deal of time managing conflict. Like about 42% of their time.

Can you hear more trees falling?

There are many causes for workplace conflict occurring naturally from different department goals and job roles. When you mix in a person’s different needs, values and styles, is it any mystery why introverts and extroverts may have times they just cannot get along?

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Powerful Presentations by the Powerful Introvert


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Have you ever felt or believed you were talented in or gifted with a particular skill and then when you try and write about it, you struggle? As a professionally paid speaker for many years I would not have thought that would be a situation for me, but it startled me to find myself almost speechless. Chapter six of Communication Toolkit for Introverts: Find your voice for everyday business success, is about success in powerful presentations!

This chapter begins by comparing the common occurrence of a presentation to a tape measure: if you have not used a tape measure in life, it’s likely you have seen one. If you have not given a presentation in your work, you most likely have had to listen to one.

As common as presentations or public speaking is, some people would rather walk a tightrope over a high canyon than speak in front of an audience. The introvert and extrovert might likely be in agreement about it!

What is presentation power?

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Light up Your Business Meetings the Introvert Way

In keeping with the toolkit theme for the upcoming book Communication Toolkit for Introverts, chapter 5 is titled, Your Head Band Light: Succeeding in the Business Meeting.

The metaphor

Just like the headband light can help with seeing the path ahead more clearly, meetings can be managed to be more effective. Even to the degree people might like to attend them.

Here’s how to let your introvert light shine in any meeting you are part of whether as the facilitator or an invitee.

“A meeting is an event where minutes are taken and hours wasted.”

Captain Kirk of Star Trek fame is quoted as saying this. Yes, even Captain James T. Kirk, had a disdain for meetings. Is it any wonder?

Meetings in business are an everyday event. It could be in-person or online. For years the business productivity specialists have advised leadership, “Have a meeting when it is the only way to communicate the message.”

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Google Penalty: No get out of Jail Free card – happy ending

Google_Penalty_revokedIn Google Penalty: No get out of Jail Free card, part 1 and part 2, we identified my particular Google penalty – Unnatural Outbound Links, along with the actions I took up to the point of a Reconsideration request.

No. My first round of about 12 hours of time and energy did not bode well. But steps 1 to 6 were well worth the investment.

Here are the steps that lead to the ultimate outcome – penalty removed.[Continue Reading...]