How Introverts Can Leverage Cold Email Versus Cold Calling or Networking

How Introverts Can Leverage Cold Email Versus Cold Calling or Networking

If you’re an introvert, you probably already know that you hate cold calling and networking. You probably hate calling a restaurant for reservations, let alone calling someone on the phone to discuss business or sales.

You’re not alone. For those on the receiving end, cold calling is also not a favorite. After all, it seems so spammy, right?

Cold calling, however, still exists for a reason, and that reason is that it does work if you’re a skilled caller. Unfortunately, it can be very difficult for some introverts to overcome their dislike of telephone conversations enough to actually become one of those skilled callers.

Luckily, on the other hand, you aren’t stuck with cold calling in order to get your point across. You can easily take advantage of cold emailing, and see much of the same results.

Whatever you do, don’t let someone tell you that because you’re an introvert, you won’t be good at sales. In fact, many introverts are great at sales. This is for the simple reason that they’re much better an interpersonal connections. When they do connect with someone, it’s at a deeper level. This can make them better at both sympathizing with a consumer’s need, and helping them create a solution to their problem.

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How to move beyond small talk: a step-by-step guide

How to move beyond small talk: a step-by-step guide

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Have you ever found yourself at an event stuck answering boring questions like “what do you do?” or “where are you from?” and wondering what to talk about next?

I call this the Small Talk Trap.

At first, everything seems to be going well, but after a few basic questions the conversation stalls. Due to my introversion, I often found myself talking to extroverts and stuck in the Small Talk Trap. As a result, my conversations would fizzle. Eventually, the other person would say something like, “Okay… nice to meet you…” while walking away.

It took me a lot of reading and some uncomfortable experimentation to find a way out of the Small Talk Trap. Today, I want to share the simple system I use to get to an interesting conversation.

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How to Socialize More If You Are an Introvert Freshman?

NOTE: This is a guest post from an author who I hope you will agree, knows introverts!

How to Socialize More If You Are an Introvert Freshman?

For most people, parties, lunches and weddings conjure up images of mouth-watering food, interesting people and a relaxing time. For some, such social events resemble nightmares.

Are you tired of watching social butterflies (or moths) flit from one group to another exuding confidence? At this time, you grip your glass and grit your teeth painfully waiting for the second-hand to tick by slowly.

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How To Use A Reward System For Successful Goal Setting

My traditional goal setting started in my corporate working days, decades ago! You likely know the kind of goals: SMARTY goals. Then, I discovered, How To Use A Reward System For Successful Goal Setting

Do you know what kind of goal setting SMARTY is? Do you set goals this way?

Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-bound, Yours

If this kind of goal setting is working for you, this is fabulous. Do stay with it. Rarely, did it work for me. I had to find a different way.

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Are You One Habit Away from Easily Reaching Your Goal?

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I’d bet most or some the goals you set to achieve, are a more specific outcome, right?

More money, a new and bigger house, lose weight, be more fit. Goals like these usually come to mind when most people think about goal setting.

And this type of goal usually revolves around a situation in our lives we want to change. They are what we could call outcome-based goals.

But a different type of goal, which focuses on changing behaviors, makes achieving an outcome-based goal both easier and faster!

Here is what it means to have a behavior-based goal:

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Steps To Turn Daily Focus into Successful Goal Achievement

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We know that goal-oriented people are mostly successful, happier, and more productive. But setting and keeping goals is a skill, and like any skill, there are good and better ways to doing it.

One thing you might find helpful is separating your goals into behavior-based and outcome-based models. There are a few differences between the two, and knowing which is which can be key.

Steps To Turn Daily Focus into Successful Goal Achievement

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How To More Easily Reach Your Goals With Behavior-Based Goals

It’s a new year, and many of us are thinking of goal setting and possibly starting with behavior-based goals. From experience, they are a sure fire way to propel your outcome based goals! Now, How To More Easily Reach Your Goals With Behavior-Based Goals.

We usually think of goals that are a particular outcome. Some examples include:

  • Lose 20 pounds.
  • Increase income by 10%.
  • Buy a larger house/newer vehicle.
  • Run a marathon.
  • Save money for college.

Of course, these few are more common goals that people set for themselves.

But what if we based our goals on changing behaviors instead of obtaining a particular outcome? Could we modify or completely change behaviors that would lead us to the desired result quicker, healthier, and with less stress? Some experts certainly think so.

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Best 5 Monsters to Free Yourself of this Halloween

monster_houseTrick or treat? Personally, I’m tired of doing tricks and am ready for treats. Whether it’s a treat from someone or one I give myself, with Halloween on the calendar, there are Best 5 Monsters to Free Yourself of this Halloween.

Have you ever heard, “When you seek the truth, ask a wise woman?” No that is not me who I’m speaking about, but instead, it’s on the cover of my box of Wisdom of the Crone cards. It’s a gift one of my family members gave to me a few years ago.

Once in a while, I lift a card from this deck of 54 cards in addition to any other personal process that day, to help me recharge my energy. Today was one of those “help me I’m drowning,” I’m in overwhelm, kind of days. Overwhelm is a feeling; that’s it. Most of the time I bring it on or cause it myself.

This Crone deck card is one I’ve read before, and I get it on an intellectual basis: acceptance.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Acceptance.

But maybe because of recent happenings in kind of a haunting way, the words of guidance were, well, haunting.

Best 5 Monsters to Free Yourself of this Halloween:

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Top BS Facts about Introvert Experiences You Might Think Are True

One of my weaknesses, even with knowing it is an utterly useless way to be or act, is judging who I am by comparing myself to others. Do you ever get that way? As I regularly say about it, it’s a win-lose proposition. Comparitis as I like to call this dilemma, can only add to the top BS facts about introvert experiences you might think are true. Hence, Top BS Facts about Introvert Experiences You Might Think Are True

That’s my sign to take some additional time to get my head and heart cleared. And, get happy.

Award winning photo by Christopher Weber

Award winning photo by Christopher Weber

The clearing started to lift yesterday afternoon after just a few hours of being down on myself, in my head of course.

With every good intention to write a couple of blog posts to queue up since I am traveling next week, the venom of judging myself delayed me until getting in a better space. That’s when I realized it could be because of BS facts about introvert experiences. Experiences you might think are true.

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AWAKE #introverts! Work from your strengths for smoother sailing

There’s a metaphor online which I referenced in my book Communication Toolkit for Introverts. It ties in with this chapter of AWAKE #introverts! Work from your introvert strengths for smoother sailing. In general, it’s this:

In some ways, we are like a sailboat. A sailboat can have problems. These problems are like our weaknesses. Could be holes in sails or, worse, holes in the boat.

If any hole in a sailboat is not patched up – trouble!

Sailboats have sails to manage their travels. Consider sails like our strengths. Sails get hoisted, trimmed, and deserve attention to know how they are working and their condition. If we don’t pay attention to maximizing what the sails do, we can find ourselves not going anywhere, going slower than we want, or not at all.

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