How Do You Get Over It When Things Go Wrong?

For my loyal readers, many who are friends, thank you for all your support. It’s been over a year of writing, editing, and seeing the book Communication Toolkit for Introverts to publication. The final product is almost ready.

Since the publisher has one hold-up, due to an issue with the final editing staff, it’s still time to keep going. The twist of it is, to have some fun during the wait! The publisher is more than agreeable to make several copies (PDF and paperback) available for this. More on that the end of this week so stay tuned for a fun raffle.

How Do You Get Over It When Things Go Wrong?

It’s not as if this is the only thing that has gone wrong for me. My goodness, there have been several situations this year which went on for weeks if not months. The nature and scope of some of those situations make the book launch pale in comparison.

Instead it’s more that this delay, going wrong for several months, usually occurs after a big turn in the process. This was no exception.

We finished the first round of edits back in March, just one month or two after my completion of writing.

The the book cover was complete in April.

In May it was looking as if that end of June was going to be a reality for Communication Toolkit for Introverts. 

Not so.

The publisher went through a passive reorganization. If you now or ever worked in corporate America, you likely understand the havoc that can wreak on all stakeholders.

Those are the kind of – things gone wrong – that affect me the most. The ones that come up unexpectedly.

Reflecting about this delay after delay (it’s the end of the second and I’m told final delay) meant I needed to both go within, and find inspiration outside myself.

Here are some wonderful quotations I found myself reflecting on.

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Make the Best of When Things Go Wrong

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A list of quotes about what to do when things go wrong.

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  1. 1. "Darling when things go wrong in life, this is what you do. You lift your chin, put on a ravishing smile, mix yoursel...

    "Darling when things go wrong in life, this is what you do. You lift your chin, put on a ravishing smile, mix yoursel...
  2. 2. Keep Calm and Carry On

    Keep Calm and Carry On
  3. 3. "The man who smiles when things go wrong, has thought of someone to blame it on." Robert Bloch

    "The man who smiles when things go wrong, has thought of someone to blame it on." Robert Bloch
  4. 4. "Things go wrong but life goes on."

    "Things go wrong but life goes on."
  5. 5. "When things go wrong, don't go with them." Elvis Presley

    "When things go wrong, don't go with them." Elvis Presley
  6. 6. "When some things go wrong, take a moment to be grateful for the many more things that are still going right." Annie ...

    "When some things go wrong, take a moment to be grateful for the many more things that are still going right." Annie ...
  7. 7. "She stood in the storm and when the winds did not go her way, she adjusted her sails." Elizabeth Edwards

    "She stood in the storm and when the winds did not go her way, she adjusted her sails." Elizabeth Edwards
  8. 8. "When things go wrong don't go down with them. Climb up and stay strong."

    "When things go wrong don't go down with them. Climb up and stay strong."
  9. 9. "Sometimes good things fall apart so better things call fall together." Marilyn Monroe

    "Sometimes good things fall apart so better things call fall together." Marilyn Monroe
  10. 10. If everything is going your way, you’re in the wrong direction.

    If everything is going your way, you’re in the wrong direction.
  11. 11. “What do I know?" Michele d Montaigne

    “What do I know?" Michele d Montaigne
  12. 12. "Laugh… a lot.. and make that martini:)" Jacqueline Gum

    "Laugh… a lot.. and make that martini:)" Jacqueline Gum

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How Can We Make Life Less To Do About Performance?

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Photo Credit: Time to Prove Yourself Stopwatch Timer Words Performance © Iqoncept | Dreamstime.com

How can we make life less to do about performance and more about fulfillment?

What? Isn’t it all about landing the next project? Getting the next client? Writing the next blog post? Making more money? Hosting the next fabulous dinner party?

Help! Unplug me.

Recently the pastor in the church I often attend was talking about how our lives are all about performance here on earth.  Then, there was the sad untimely passing of Robin Williams, indisputably a comic genius. Maybe it’s the point on the path in life that I’m on that makes certain words (messages) and sad events (dying) more relevant.

If we believe our lives don’t begin and end on earth then even the statement credited to Dr. Wayne Dyer supports both things like my pastor’s message and peoples deaths:

“I am a human being, not a human doing. Don’t equate your self-worth with how well you do things in life. You aren’t what you do.”

Yet many of us continue to act this way, the doing way, me included. It’s not necessarily a more introvert or extrovert thing other than as an introvert myself, this is my view of the story.

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Bad drama and good stories for introverts to navigate

good_and_bad_dramaI’m a sucker for assessments. Personal assessments. I found one today you might be interested in about how to communicate from your strengths. You know my rant about using your strengths as someone more introverted? That’s what drew me to it. Plus, it’s free; even more of a draw. I’ll share it with you at the end – or jump to the end now. It’s there.

I didn’t like the results of this assessment. Hahaha.

It identified my two top strengths and revealed a quieter strength that I have which I don’t often use. Why the heck did I have to focus on the negative again?

That got me to thinking about bad and good drama.

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Could an introvert, even extrovert, be their own worst enemy?

 

introvert enemyOn a recent radio show guest appearance, helping introverts to sort out their ability to succeed in sales, it occurred to me how the label is not effectively serving some introverts. Then as serendipitous events go, an online training course came my way bringing up this issue in another way. With continued misconceptions, whether we are an introvert or extrovert we might be our own worst enemy.

Introvert label enemy

When you look in a mirror do you stop and think, “Hey I’m an introvert,” or maybe an extrovert? I sure as heck do not. I’m looking for those friendly frown lines, that stray eyebrow lash, and in a full-length mirror looking at how I like the color of the shirt I picked for the day.

But step away from the mirror and you will find a different kind of thinking. It’s those thoughts, ideas and ramblings in your head of another kind.

Like, “Hey, I’m an introvert and I can’t succeed in sales,” or “My introversion doesn’t make it possible for me to enjoy networking.” If you want to believe these labels you are carrying around, then they have boxed you in.

Just who is in control of what we believe? We are![Continue Reading...]

Top BS Facts about Introvert Experiences You Might Think Are True

One of my weaknesses, even with knowing it is a totally useless way to be or act, is judging who I am by comparing myself to others. Do you ever get that way? As I regularly say about it, it’s a win-lose proposition. This can only add to the top BS facts about introvert experiences you might think are true.

That’s my sign to take some additional time to get my head and heart cleared. And, get happy.

Award winning photo by Christopher Weber

Award winning photo by Christopher Weber

The clearing started to lift yesterday afternoon after just a few hours of being down on myself, in my head of course.

With every good intention to write a couple of blog posts to queue up since I am traveling next week, the venom of judging myself delayed me until getting in a better space. That’s when I realized it could be because of BS facts about introvert experiences. Experiences you might think are true.

In my humble opinion here are a few of those top BS facts:[Continue Reading...]

Too Busy? Try 3 Tips To Streamline Your Blog Title

Help 1Sometimes the title or headline for content that pops into my mind, just doesn’t work. It may not work for the people I want to attract to read my blog, it may not work for getting my post found online and it may not work for me.

In addition to the title dilemma, it can be the frustration what do I write about today?

Yikes. Either nothing comes up or too many ideas noodle around in my head.

Feeling compelled to systematize my blogging subjects (so many of my readers have blogged about how they do this and it inspired me) was my first step toward making the idea and title part of the process easier.

While the topic list is ever evolving, one of the top factors most things have to include for me is, it has to be fun. I’m too old to do anything which excludes having fun. Fun is one of my top five values.

Presuming you might have similar thoughts about blog post ideas or blog post titles, these tips might help you streamline crafting your blog title or even email subject.[Continue Reading...]

4 Specifics to Celebrate for Introvert Freedom

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With the spirit of the July 4th holiday we are celebrating in the USA, it got me wondering, how is an introvert free?

Are we free from something or free to something?

The holiday is all about independence and freedom but the political nature of freedom is a topic for a different blog. As I started researching freedom it was quite evident this is a huge topic. What Price Freedom,,a blog post by Julia Barnickle, states people when asked to identify their top value will mostly say, freedom.

In looking at my own list of top five values while I didn’t find the specific word, it is obvious my values are centered in freedom.

It just might be true that in some way, we all value freedom.

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5 Tips To Understand and Get Out of LinkedIn Group Posting Jail

LinkedIn Top ContributorFortunately I was visiting with family and focused on enjoying our time together when I got this surprise about my LinkedIn “group posting status” appearing across any and all my pages.

The message in a blue box, on the right side of every page read, “Your posts are now being moderated group wide.” Group Wide Auto Moderation or GWAM.

What?! The groups where I contribute actively, that contribution scale on the right of the window will show “Top Contributor.”

The message of posts being moderated brought on feelings of surprise, frustration and even anger. This last feeling after I tracked down the LinkedIn explanation which is specifically vague. After all, if you don’t know what caused the problem how can you fully correct it and recover.

It almost felt I was given a jail sentence.

Another blogger, Jen Dewar, used the term SWAM, “site wide auto moderation” in a post on her blog, “Help! I’ve been SWAM’d on LinkedIn! Actually many people refer to that term.

I believe more appropriately it’s GWAM because you are still able to post LinkedIn status updates. But whether it’s SWAM or GWAM it is certainly something to track down, act on and correct. Here are 5 tips to understand and be able to get out of LinkedIn group posting jail.

It can be because of one contribution to just one group that LinkedIn does not identify for the accused, which marked as spam or flagged irrelevant.

For me it was hard to say how recent the post was. It could have been years ago since people often jump on posts that go back as far as I’ve seen to 5 years ago.

You know the kind of perpetual posts I mean: highly popular and evergreen content posts or a post that is the moderators invitation to promote yourself in some way.

Only two possibilities in the LinkedIn help explain why a “group wide auto moderation” status message would appear everywhere once you log in:[Continue Reading...]

Introverts unique power tools in selling

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from Patricia Weber video http://youtu.be/kqQxSrD9apc

So many people’s encouragement saying that I was “a natural,” steered my early career path to sales.

Really?

All these years later, I still don’t understand how we can be natural at selling. I do know selling is something I continue to learn and use. The corporate America sales training was invaluable although not entirely by today’s standards, because of how so much has changed.

If I understood then the relationship between sales and personality type as reported now, it’s likely I would have preferred to book an appointment with my dentist then move into selling.

We don’t see many people steering introverts into a sales career. Even though we have so many of the skills the potential customers crave for and don’t often find with a seller.

If there was any personality to sales relationship talk way back then, I was oblivious to anything related to introvert and extrovert differences and preferences.

You may think, “I’m not a salesperson, what would I need to understand about selling?”

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Introverts “on the level” approach to negotiation success

from Patricia Weber video at http://youtu.be/v5ndFo1NX4E

from Patricia Weber video at http://youtu.be/v5ndFo1NX4E

One editor reviewing my book commented on chapter eight: “Negotiations is something which brings out the confidence out in the open and right in front of you.”

Wow.

Chapter 8 of Communication Toolkit for Introverts is all about using more of what the introvert has going for them than not, for better outcomes in win-win negotiations.

Negotiations happen everyday in business.

Maybe you want a bigger salary.

Or you have your eye on a corner office.

You have a conflict with someone else who wants to take vacation the same time you do.

What comes to your mind as an everyday business negotiation?

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