AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable

If you are more of an introvert and want to get your voice heard in any business or life situation, the AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable series could be just for you!

Over at Periscope and even Facebook live, on most Fridays, you’ll be able to participate in the conversation of the AWAKE formula.

Or maybe you want to sit, listen and reflect and are quite satisfied with other viewers live, in the background. You can do this on Twitter! If you follow me on Twitter, you’ll get my Tweet announcing the live stream is going.

In using what could be a meaningful introvert acrostic, you can discover:

AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable

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Introvert Blog Spotlight: 1 of Best 44 Sales Blogs

This global recognition was a complete surprise, and recognition like this is worth celebrating! Thank you, Market Inspector, a leading business to business marketplace for companies in Europe, for this recognition: Introvert Blog Spotlight: 1 of Best 44 Sales Blogs

The Best Sales Blogs in 2016 by Market Inspector

Sure it’s free publicity. I’ll take it! It’s also a reason to blog. I’m doing that!

Who does not like being recognized for their efforts? Some research finds the introvert, and extrovert brain are different in our processing external “reward” cues.

Then I get to change the label from reward to recognition to be able to get the most out of this experience.

Receiving recognition is more than these two benefits. Here are a few to consider when you want to accept credit for your work in any way. Here are some other reasons I feel recognition allows extroverts and introverts alike to benefit:
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4 Ways to Celebrate Your Introvert Freedom

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4 Ways to Celebrate Your Introvert Freedom

With the spirit of the July 4th holiday we are celebrating in the USA, it got me wondering, how is an introvert free?
Are we free from something or free to something?

The holiday is all about independence and freedom, but the political nature of freedom is a topic for a different blog. While researching freedom, it became evident this is a huge topic. What Price Freedom,a blog post by Julia Barnickle, states people when asked to identify their top value will mostly say, freedom.

In looking at my list of top five values while I didn’t find the particular word, it is evident my values center around freedom.

It just might be true that in some way, we all value freedom.

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9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators #infographic

9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators #infographic

If mindfulness, meditation and being grateful can’t get you to a place of peace, this just might be the little bit of humor to help ease whatever pain you might find!

When I saw this elevator #infographic I smiled, chuckled and laughed aloud. Of course with it being in the context of the more introverted of us it rings all too true an experience.

Caveat: it’s really not elevators that are a problem. The issue is what people who ride elevators often do that can be disruptive.

Here are a few highlights for me of some of

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9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators #infographic#2 The Hot Seat – Whether a boss, a co-worker or an acquaintance, small talk is something I just avoid, and not just in an elevator. When it is it an elevator, pressing the number to my floor to get me to my destination more quickly seems like a solution.

#4 Front Row at the Peep Show – I’m married to an extrovert. What I appreciate is a venture out into different experiences in the world because of him. Take going to a local comedy for over a year. At first, we sat in comfortable mid-theater seats. Then he wanted to move right up front. Eventually, he wanted to wear his most outrageous shirt up front, first row. Why? Because he loves being “on stage” with the comedians. Being that close makes me wish I’d said no.


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# 6 It’s Just a Prank – Many pranks I’ve seen just are not all that funny. To even contemplate of a joke in an elevator makes me cringe. Most just seem to play to people’s believed weaknesses. Is that amusing? Maybe if it’s not too personal in a negative way. One year a top salesperson on my team gifted me at Christmas with a pair of construction worker boots. Message: You are a kick ass, take no prisoners, sales manager. I was. We all laughed.

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#8 Two Sardines – Personal space is important to everyone I’d suspect. If one other person, who I don’t know, and I are sharing my space, I’m likely to turn, look directly at them in the eye and say, “Excuuuuse me.” Since personally preferred distance differs by personality and culture, I can only imagine the potential issues with this happening in an elevator.

I was so glad not to find that any of these worst situations involve getting stuck in an elevator! Being stuck in an elevator  is something both my husband and I have experience with, and on which we agree: it’s one of the most worrisome experiences.

What concern make you avoid elevators, if you do?

What’s the worst situation you’ve encountered in riding an elevator? Any from the

9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators ?

Inspired by brainstorming at MyBlogU.

How to Use Gratitude to Manage Stress and Find Peace

How to Use Gratitude to Manage Stress and Find Peace

Gratitude is the first daily habit for working wonders for me to manage stress and find peace. Naturally, it had to be during a difficult situation! Do you know what I mean?

Over the years that I heard so much gratitude journaling in different psychology and spiritual blog posts, it didn’t work for me.

When a particularly stressful situation came up, I needed to find some peace.

It was around that time I also became a text coach. What’s a text coach? A coach who can go anywhere with people because there’s an app for text coaching! It works wonders for people who want to reach a goal, build a skill or change a habit.

But besides using a coach there, I could more easily track my daily gratitude – and get thumbs up from other members for it. Then I could see progress points of 30 days straight, 180 days straight, and the longest streak of 258 days.

Who doesn’t like a little cheerleading now and then? Sure better than journaling for me.

These days I’ve moved away from logging in to track my gratitude 3 to 5 things, because of this daily habit is on auto-pilot.

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How to Power Up with Mindfulness for Introverts, Even Extroverts

How to Power Up with Mindfulness for Introverts, Even Extroverts

When you hear the word peace, what comes to mind? Sometimes our minds, introverts and even extroverts,  are filled with so many thoughts we may not be able to hear the most important ones above the noise.

On a global level maybe it’s about ending wars and hatred.

Or if you grew up when I did perhaps you think of flowers and peace symbols.

Ultimately what we each want is personal peace. I don’t understand why more introverts aren’t seemingly taking advantage of the wonderful thought-pacer of mindfulness meditation.  

These past few years I’ve been learning more about meditation, mindfulness, and prayer. In the process of a daily habit of all three practices, I’m letting go of worry and stress and becoming more present and grounded in everyday situations including some of the most inconceivable.

There is research to support some of the benefits of mindfulness meditation. Because many believe there is not enough research, studies continue, including UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center (MARC) which according to their website has a mission: “to foster mindful awareness across the lifespan through education and research to promote well-being and a more compassionate society.”

Until you experience things first hand, sometimes you never know!

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How To Manage Most Stressful Situations To Find Peace

How To Manage Most Stressful Situations To Find Peace

On a previous post,  I mentioned a time when my 88-year-old mother was in an ambulance on the way to the emergency room from long-term care.

Where is the joy in that?

In an inconceivable situation like this, I’ve found that to stay in the moment or be totally present is possible even if you cannot find joy. Pausing when I took the call, for just 8 seconds to breathe deeply in and out, (by the way not even noticed by the nurse) I was able to speak calmly and ask questions about her condition.

Peace in the moment is all I wanted, not necessarily joy.

My online blogger friend Phoenicia commented, “That would probably be the last thing most people would do at that moment.

Being joyful always is humanly not possible with every situation of each day. Depending what a person might do in a similar situation in 8 seconds of breathing, can either help ease stress if there is any – or increase any negative emotions.

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How to Easily Find Peace in Most Stressful Situations

how to easily find peace in most stressful situations Here is the sound of joy:

That’s my youngest granddaughter when she was almost three years old.

Unless we are swinging on a swing all day long, there are going to be times in our life or days where something blocks us from joy.

Sometimes our to-do list can have an over abundance of items. Often information, whether we need it or not, seems to come to us non-stop. Life events can take twists and turns that never crossed our radar screen.

Can you relate to the change of pace or situations that can suck you into negative feelings in similar ways?

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I belong to a small group at the church I attend. While I always benefit from our pastor’s message, these small groups allow us to go deeper into what the over all theme might be that week or month.

Usually, a small group has 7 or 8 people at most. No one is ever pressured or even coaxed to contribute. In total, they last about 90 minutes. These small groups are perfect for the introvert!

A few weeks ago we studied about being joyful in all circumstances. When I heard similar advice in a mastermind group I’m in I decided to go to the Bible to find ways to do this.

Always be joyful. 1 Thessalonians 5:16 (NLT) 

This bible verse doesn’t say in good times. It doesn’t say most of the time. There is not any time delineation about when to start and when to stop being joyful. Always is the first word.

This verse is as clear as can be: always. Take any synonym you prefer to put in the word always place, and the meaning stays the same.

Maybe you have a, “But what about when ….?”

Often a situation isn’t easy to be joyful. My 88-year-old mother was in an ambulance on the way to the emergency room from long-term care. This situation is just the kind to stay in the moment or be totally present. When I took the call from the floor nurse, it was just enough time to get centered. The pause of just 8 seconds to breathe deeply in and out, was not even noticed by the nurse. Then I could speak calmly and ask questions.

Taking a pause, or being mindful in the moment, is about being present. When something knocks me on my butt these days, and if the situation allows for, I take a full 16 seconds to breathe in and out as I learned on my meditation retreat with davidji. You can read more about the meditation retreat experience if you are interested. http://patricia-weber.com/introverts-holiday-more-responsibility-to-value-recharge-and-recover/

As I got present I remembered, “Always be joyful,” and I could feel the slightest curl on both sides of my mouth.

Getting the information needed allowed me to telephone my sisters who live within an hour of mom and give them the best update.

But as I lost my center with the day moving on, I lost my joy. I started to get anxious. The thoughts were running like a freight train through my head.

I recently read that anxious (like worry) is being fearful of what might happen in the future, and anxiety is worrying about the past. They both rob you of peace.

If you can, imagine a time where you got a telephone call or some other communication about a dire situation?

Maybe you manage to stay present, be mindful of the moment to assess the situation and have clear communications.

You might be either calmer or further along in your mindfulness and other spiritual path practices than I am. If so you likely don’t get rattled about anything.

Please do tell us, how do you find your peace in stressful situations?

If you’re at about the same point in the journey, then it’s likely you know worry can happen next.

My sense is it, since we process differently, that an introvert may withdraw more during difficult times. Some studies bear out that extroverts cope with stress more actively. I know my extrovert husband will spurt his thoughts and feeling right then. maybe I was in one of these studies since I know I tend at first to be quiet. Since introvert brains are hardwired to process through a longer path of neuron connections, the difference in the two styles seems to make sense.

It also may be a gender-specific coping with stress. There’s actual physical evidence that there are 1 of 3 hormones released during a stressful situation affecting women longer term. 

There are three verses in 1 Thessalonians to consider to remember if you want to know,

how to easily find peace in most stressful situations

I hope you’ll join me in the next post to find out what the next two verses are and how you can put them to work for you in practical ways.

Be joyful, pray continuously, be thankful in all circumstances.

 

Parts originally posted 2008.

Top Easy Ways For #Extroverts To Be More Like #Introverts

Top Easy Ways For #Extroverts To Be More Like #Introverts:

Patricia Weber and Bob McIntosh talk about how extroverts would like to be more like introverts

Is it us, or is it every day that an article or blog post alert has something about how introverts can become more like extroverts?

Bob McIntosh, and I saw a post on LinkedIn from an extrovert stating he believed he had some introvert tendencies. How exciting! If you’re an introvert, you now know that an extrovert somewhere might want to shift gears into being more introverted.

Then we talked among ourselves about any reality to extroverts who want to become more like introverts.

After some talking and thinking, we came up with an astounding – yes! Take a look at what some extroverts have told us.

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Valuable Strategy if You Need Space for Introverts and Extroverts

One of the ezines I  subscribed for about three years comes from PerfectCustomers. If you’re in sales or not, they offer a valuable strategy if you need space as an introvert or extrovert. One particular daily attraction tip struck a chord for my introversion preference. My “music” is – purposeful breaks of various types throughout the day. I believe it helps me to both function better and know who I truly am; play my music.

What is your space between the notes? Your music?

    “Music occurs in the space between the notes.”

 

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