AWAKE #introverts! Work from your strengths for smoother sailing

There’s a metaphor online which I referenced in my book Communication Toolkit for Introverts. It ties in with this chapter of AWAKE #introverts! Work from your introvert strengths for smoother sailing. In general, it’s this:

In some ways, we are like a sailboat. A sailboat can have problems. These problems are like our weaknesses. Could be holes in sails or, worse, holes in the boat.

If any hole in a sailboat is not patched up – trouble!

Sailboats have sails to manage their travels. Consider sails like our strengths. Sails get hoisted, trimmed, and deserve attention to know how they are working and their condition. If we don’t pay attention to maximizing what the sails do, we can find ourselves not going anywhere, going slower than we want, or not at all.

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Top 10 Chicken Quotations Disguised as One Introverts Humor

Everyday sayings, Top 10 Chicken Quotations Disguised as One Introverts Humor, about chickens, can give a person pause to think about how one of God’s little creatures could be so prevalent in our daily lives. It just seemed like an interesting comparison. If you’re more of an introvert and ever find yourself feeling “chicken” in any way, consider some chicken quotations to help you the next time you feel – chicken-hearted. [Continue Reading…]

AWAKE #introverts! How to go from good to best Affirmations

Maybe you’re just a little like me: the tried and true affirmations don’t work for me. In my new Scoping series, the second episode is, AWAKE #introverts! How to go from good to best Affirmations You can listen live every Friday on Periscope  Or sometimes my Facebook fan page,  Or if you prefer to read, catch a summarized blog post of each Scope episode.

AWAKE is an acronym to help know and remember what each part will review and cover.

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AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable

If you are more of an introvert and want to get your voice heard in any business or life situation, the AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable series could be just for you!

Over at Periscope and even Facebook live, on most Fridays, you’ll be able to participate in the conversation of the AWAKE formula.

Or maybe you want to sit, listen and reflect and are quite satisfied with other viewers live, in the background. You can do this on Twitter! If you follow me on Twitter, you’ll get my Tweet announcing the live stream is going.

In using what could be a meaningful introvert acrostic, you can discover:

AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable

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Introvert Blog Spotlight: 1 of Best 44 Sales Blogs

This global recognition was a complete surprise, and recognition like this is worth celebrating! Thank you, Market Inspector, a leading business to business marketplace for companies in Europe, for this recognition: Introvert Blog Spotlight: 1 of Best 44 Sales Blogs

The Best Sales Blogs in 2016 by Market Inspector

Sure it’s free publicity. I’ll take it! It’s also a reason to blog. I’m doing that!

Who does not like being recognized for their efforts? Some research finds the introvert, and extrovert brain are different in our processing external “reward” cues.

Then I get to change the label from reward to recognition to be able to get the most out of this experience.

Receiving recognition is more than these two benefits. Here are a few to consider when you want to accept credit for your work in any way. Here are some other reasons I feel recognition allows extroverts and introverts alike to benefit:
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4 Ways to Celebrate Your Introvert Freedom

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4 Ways to Celebrate Your Introvert Freedom

With the spirit of the July 4th holiday we are celebrating in the USA, it got me wondering, how is an introvert free?
Are we free from something or free to something?

The holiday is all about independence and freedom, but the political nature of freedom is a topic for a different blog. While researching freedom, it became evident this is a huge topic. What Price Freedom,a blog post by Julia Barnickle, states people when asked to identify their top value will mostly say, freedom.

In looking at my list of top five values while I didn’t find the particular word, it is evident my values center around freedom.

It just might be true that in some way, we all value freedom.

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9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators #infographic

9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators #infographic

If mindfulness, meditation and being grateful can’t get you to a place of peace, this just might be the little bit of humor to help ease whatever pain you might find!

When I saw this elevator #infographic I smiled, chuckled and laughed aloud. Of course with it being in the context of the more introverted of us it rings all too true an experience.

Caveat: it’s really not elevators that are a problem. The issue is what people who ride elevators often do that can be disruptive.

Here are a few highlights for me of some of

9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators

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9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators #infographic#2 The Hot Seat – Whether a boss, a co-worker or an acquaintance, small talk is something I just avoid, and not just in an elevator. When it is it an elevator, pressing the number to my floor to get me to my destination more quickly seems like a solution.

#4 Front Row at the Peep Show – I’m married to an extrovert. What I appreciate is a venture out into different experiences in the world because of him. Take going to a local comedy for over a year. At first, we sat in comfortable mid-theater seats. Then he wanted to move right up front. Eventually, he wanted to wear his most outrageous shirt up front, first row. Why? Because he loves being “on stage” with the comedians. Being that close makes me wish I’d said no.


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# 6 It’s Just a Prank – Many pranks I’ve seen just are not all that funny. To even contemplate of a joke in an elevator makes me cringe. Most just seem to play to people’s believed weaknesses. Is that amusing? Maybe if it’s not too personal in a negative way. One year a top salesperson on my team gifted me at Christmas with a pair of construction worker boots. Message: You are a kick ass, take no prisoners, sales manager. I was. We all laughed.

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#8 Two Sardines – Personal space is important to everyone I’d suspect. If one other person, who I don’t know, and I are sharing my space, I’m likely to turn, look directly at them in the eye and say, “Excuuuuse me.” Since personally preferred distance differs by personality and culture, I can only imagine the potential issues with this happening in an elevator.

I was so glad not to find that any of these worst situations involve getting stuck in an elevator! Being stuck in an elevator  is something both my husband and I have experience with, and on which we agree: it’s one of the most worrisome experiences.

What concern make you avoid elevators, if you do?

What’s the worst situation you’ve encountered in riding an elevator? Any from the

9 worst people for introverts to be with in elevators ?

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How to Use Gratitude to Manage Stress and Find Peace

How to Use Gratitude to Manage Stress and Find Peace

Gratitude is the first daily habit for working wonders for me to manage stress and find peace. Naturally, it had to be during a difficult situation! Do you know what I mean?

Over the years that I heard so much gratitude journaling in different psychology and spiritual blog posts, it didn’t work for me.

When a particularly stressful situation came up, I needed to find some peace.

It was around that time I also became a text coach. What’s a text coach? A coach who can go anywhere with people because there’s an app for text coaching! It works wonders for people who want to reach a goal, build a skill or change a habit.

But besides using a coach there, I could more easily track my daily gratitude – and get thumbs up from other members for it. Then I could see progress points of 30 days straight, 180 days straight, and the longest streak of 258 days.

Who doesn’t like a little cheerleading now and then? Sure better than journaling for me.

These days I’ve moved away from logging in to track my gratitude 3 to 5 things, because of this daily habit is on auto-pilot.

I’m not perfect with my gratitude practice and likely never will be. However, I have learned some tips to make it as much of a daily habit as you would want to! [Continue Reading…]

How to Power Up with Mindfulness for Introverts, Even Extroverts

How to Power Up with Mindfulness for Introverts, Even Extroverts

When you hear the word peace, what comes to mind? Sometimes our minds, introverts and even extroverts,  are filled with so many thoughts we may not be able to hear the most important ones above the noise.

On a global level maybe it’s about ending wars and hatred.

Or if you grew up when I did perhaps you think of flowers and peace symbols.

Ultimately what we each want is personal peace. I don’t understand why more introverts aren’t seemingly taking advantage of the wonderful thought-pacer of mindfulness meditation.  

These past few years I’ve been learning more about meditation, mindfulness, and prayer. In the process of a daily habit of all three practices, I’m letting go of worry and stress and becoming more present and grounded in everyday situations including some of the most inconceivable.

There is research to support some of the benefits of mindfulness meditation. Because many believe there is not enough research, studies continue, including UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center (MARC) which according to their website has a mission: “to foster mindful awareness across the lifespan through education and research to promote well-being and a more compassionate society.”

Until you experience things first hand, sometimes you never know!

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How To Manage Most Stressful Situations To Find Peace

How To Manage Most Stressful Situations To Find Peace

On a previous post,  I mentioned a time when my 88-year-old mother was in an ambulance on the way to the emergency room from long-term care.

Where is the joy in that?

In an inconceivable situation like this, I’ve found that to stay in the moment or be totally present is possible even if you cannot find joy. Pausing when I took the call, for just 8 seconds to breathe deeply in and out, (by the way not even noticed by the nurse) I was able to speak calmly and ask questions about her condition.

Peace in the moment is all I wanted, not necessarily joy.

My online blogger friend Phoenicia commented, “That would probably be the last thing most people would do at that moment.

Being joyful always is humanly not possible with every situation of each day. Depending what a person might do in a similar situation in 8 seconds of breathing, can either help ease stress if there is any – or increase any negative emotions.

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