5 Scripts to Help Introverts Survive – and Even ENJOY a Networking Event – Part 1

It’s amazing how many introverts have all kinds of tips for so much extroverting in our business world. So much that sometimes, like in this guest post by Marsha Shandur, the content has to be Part 1 and Part 2. Here are the first two of five easy and doable ideas in Part 1 of:

5 Scripts to Help Introverts Survive – and Even ENJOY a Networking Event

Just be yourself!”.

Just talk to people – they’re only people, just like you!”.

Have fun and relax – the conversation will come naturally!”.

This kind of advice for going to a networking event is well-meant – but is advice that I find useless. For me, it’s the equivalent of trying to teach me to cook by saying, “Just add some onion!” “Cook it for a bit, not too long!”. The kind of advice that sends me into a tailspin – and leads to me ruining dinner.

When I’m nervous about something, I like specific instructions.[Continue Reading...]

Managing as an Introvert and a Highly Sensitive Person: Bright Lights and Clothing Tags


As coincidence would have it, the topic of HSPs, highly sensitive persons, started being discussed in one of the introvert LinkedIn groups I belong too, at the same time this guest blogger, Jenn Granneman, emailed me her post.

It’s so spot on.

Now, keep in mind, you can be either an introvert or an extrovert and be an HSP.

What do you think – are you an HSP too? Here’s Jenn’s experience:

Some days on my lunch break, I just need to be in my classroom alone, with the door shut and the lights turned down. I don’t listen to music, I don’t check my phone, and I don’t try to multi-task by answering emails at the same time. I just sit quietly, let my mind relax and go where it wants, and eat my lunch.

I’m not doing this because I’m anti-social. I enjoy the relationships I have with my colleagues, and I’m pretty active with them socially. I love my job as a 4th grade teacher, and I have fun with my students.

The truth is, not only am I an introvert, but I’m also a highly sensitive person (an HSP, for short). Sometimes I need a break from the constant noise, activity, and stimulation that come from the work day (and especially from teaching rambunctious 4th graders!). My colleagues recharge by chatting with each other, but I need quiet space alone.

A highly sensitive person is someone who processes sensory data more deeply and thoroughly. An HSP’s nervous system is actually different –it’s uncommonly sensitive. This allows HSPs to pick up on subtleties in their environments that non-HSPs might miss.[Continue Reading...]

How to Boost Creativity – the Introverted Way

Creative-IntrovertsCreativity and introversion often go hand-in-hand.  Michaela Chung is guest blogging this, How to Boost Creativity – the Introverted Way. It is commonly accepted that creating art requires a certain degree of introspection and aloneness. We have a romanticized view of painters and poets as sensitive loners or emotional eccentrics.  After all, many of the greatest artists in history were exceptionally introverted.  Henry David Thoreau used to spend several hours a day walking through the woods alone. Pablo Picasso was adamant that “without great solitude, no serious work is possible.”

But what about the less obvious artists among us? What about the entrepreneurs, computer developers, scientists and advertising execs? Their jobs require creativity, too.  And, yet, our society isn’t as willing to accept the introverted advertising executive as it is the loner painter.

Many companies squash introverted creativity by focusing on groupthink and constant collaboration. This is unfortunate because introverts know a thing or two about how best to facilitate creativity.  Actually, there are five major ways that embracing introversion can boost creativity.[Continue Reading...]

Your invitation to a #BlogHop of writing passion

What a pleasant surprise to receive an invitation to Blog Hop! When I first heard the term a couple of years ago I thought, “Wow, that sounds fun. I wonder if it’s like one of my favorite childhood games, hop scotch?”

Enjoy “hopping” to the different blogs featured here. Broaden your contact sphere.

My invitation to blog hop, came from one of my long time blogging friends. I met A.K. (Kathy) Andrew on LinkedIn. Here’s a bit about the woman who invited me to this blog hop:

AK_AndrewA.K. Andrew was born in England, where she worked as a schoolteacher before becoming a Community Arts photographer and screen-printer in London.

In the ensuing twenty years, San Francisco became her home, and in it’s atmosphere of breaking boundaries and creative expression, A.K. became a painter and ultimately a writer. During a spell of living back in the UK, she completed a Creative Writing Certificate at the University of Sussex, Brighton in 2010.

Her current novel, in its final draft stage, is Under The Bed. Set during the Vietnam era in NYC, two women, a generation apart, each burdened by guilt regarding the death of a sibling, find their own lives in danger, when the older woman’s brush with McCarthyism emerges during their collaboration on her autobiography.

A.K. Andrew now lives in Northern California.

She blogs at http://akandrew.com/blog-a-writers-notebook/

A.K.s writing is superb. Every sentence pulls you in and gets you ready for the next one. So do hop over to hers only, once you finish reading here!

Part of this assignment is to blog post on the writing process, answering the four questions below.[Continue Reading...]

Introverts and Intimacy: Busting the Myths

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Lily McCann has been a guest blogger here in the past. When she came to me with this post it struck a chord with me. Why you might ask, since it is somewhat out of the typical kind of relationship post you might read here. It’s because I could so totally relate.

I’ve been married just one time, for too many years to so without giving away my age which I loathe. It spoke deeply to me about me and my all out extrovert husband. I’m hoping you will like it:

Does being an introvert make dating and intimacy more difficult? There are many pre-conceived ideas and stereotypes concerning introverts and our intimate relationships, which may feed into a negative self-image and make connecting with people in an intimate way unnecessarily more difficult for introverts.

Relationships are often a minefield in any case, without worrying that an innate tendency towards introversion adds further complications. The popular perception of introverts, being by nature comfortable with their own space and less likely to feel a need for an intimate partner, is that they are also unlikely to find it easy to form intimate relationships, and that when they do so may find it more difficult to communicate openly with their partner. It’s also often asserted that, far from opposites attracting, a combination of introvert and extrovert within an intimate relationship is a disastrous mix. All this would seem to leave introverts out in the cold when it comes to the dating game.

However, recent research shows that this may be far from the case. A healthy dose of introversion may in fact be a beneficial factor when it comes to forming intimate relationships and certainly for making them last. Yes, even with an extrovert![Continue Reading...]

If You Have Bad News Give Them A Sandwich- The Art Of The Bad News Sandwich

Introverts thrive being prepared. Of course in sales or customer service, when we have to deliver bad news, it can help to have a kind of template which we can be creative with to deal with the potential conflict. Here is something for the introvert who wants to master giving bad news, one bite at a time: If You Have Bad News Give Them A Sandwich- The Art Of The Bad News Sandwich by guest blogger, Pete Kontakos

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When you are dealing with clients and customers it is inevitable that you one day you will be asked to deliver some bad news to them. As a professional your goal is to give them the bad news in a way that leaves them understanding that you care and if possible, have a solution to their problem.[Continue Reading...]

Contest for 8 Best Blog Posts about Hashtagify #Hashtag Secrets

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Image courtesy of Danilo Rizzuti / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Hashtags, words we use to label and search social media, are like keywords. If you are still work  only with keywords, then it’s time to understand what is more typical in many social media users hands and that is hashtags.

Most of the major social media platforms use hashtags: Twitter, Google+, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube are a few where the use of hashtags can help you be more findable.

But just like we might analyze the right key words, a similar understanding of hashtags will help increase visitors to your blog or website.

Here is how and where you get to learn from the best analysis of eight selected bloggers who revealed their use of one particularly advanced hashtag tool.[Continue Reading...]

Deathly Afraid of Public Speaking? Take Two Tips to Cure You of That

In writing my upcoming book I interviewed over one dozen introvert specialists for the six essential communications skills for the introvert to master for everyday business success.  Suzy Kedzierski was a delight and then I learned of her new Kindle book: 10 Secrets to Powerful Public Speaking … Even If You’re Deathly Afraid of Being the Center of Attention In this guest blog, she gives us a glimpse of valuable insights from it.

“I can’t say exactly when I first became aware that I was deathly afraid of getting up in front of a group, whether actually having to make a presentation or just being the center of attention …

Although I was always a shy kid, with at most a handful of schoolmates I could call friends, there was no one incident I can point to that made me terrified of being front and center of any group. No humiliating moment that changed my life. And yet, when I tell you I was petrified, I exaggerate not one little bit.”

Thus starts off Suzy Kedzierski’s Ebook, 10 Secrets to Powerful Public Speaking … Even If You’re Deathly Afraid of Being the Center of Attention.

Here is a glimpse of the valuable tips:[Continue Reading...]

How Introverts Can Learn To Love What They Do


As introverts, we tend to keep to ourselves in large group settings. We like to talk with people we feel comfortable with, but we don’t enjoy making small-talk with people we don’t know. We like to stay out of the limelight. We dislike confrontation intensely.

So what does this mean when we’re stuck in a job with a boss we don’t necessarily get along with? What about when we feel that we just can’t contribute as much or don’t have enough control over our environment because we don’t feel comfortable voicing our opinions?

If you feel like your work is unfulfilling or stagnant, here are three ways to better love what you do, even if your coworkers, job description, or level of required social interaction is less than desirable.[Continue Reading...]

Can Acting Like an Extrovert Make You Happier?

acting-like-introvert-Girl-Reading-BookAn article written by Sumanthi Reddy a few months ago addresses the idea that introverts who act like extroverts will be happier. This article is based off of studies that show that extroverts are, on average, happier than introverts. However, what this article doesn’t address is that pretending to be something you’re not isn’t fair to you.

The Difference Between Extroverts and Introverts

Extroverts and introverts have two separate approaches when it comes to social interaction. Extroverts generally enjoy being surrounded by people and having a high-stimulus environment. Introverts, on the other hand, may prefer smaller gatherings with fewer stimuli.

A common misconception is introverts are shy and quiet — however, that’s not always true. When the topic suits their fancy or when they’re around people with whom they are comfortable, introverts may talk non-stop. So, the idea of acting like an extrovert seems strange because, in a way, introverts are perfectly capable of maintaining conversations with people and being around others.

Should Introverts Act Like Extroverts?[Continue Reading...]