Why is there No Map for Our Grief? When my husband died, I wanted to find or have someone tell me what to do. Someone, please give me a map for grief, if you find one. First of all, there is no map for grief. The mechanics of changing names on accounts, planning the service, getting copies of the death certificate, and a never-ending stream of first action items are … [Read more...] about There is No Map for Grief
Do you ever get so worked up about rebuilding life as a widow, a senior one at that, and you cannot hear yourself think? Am I the only one? When everything becomes so much mumbo jumbo in your head, you want to grab your dammit doll and split its seams wide open? The Dammit Doll is still holding together. Truth is, he's my second one in four years. A close friend gifted … [Read more...] about Rebuilding Life as a Widow
Intellectually, I could not imagine that almost four years after my husband's unexpected death that a visit to a long put off "close his bank account" could trigger the horrendous rush of feelings. Some of my worst grief triggers come up suddenly. Most of my triggers over these last years are from incredible memories triggered by a movie or a song. These kinds of flashbacks … [Read more...] about What Are Your Worst Grief Triggers ?
Since my husband died almost 4 years ago, I continue to learn how a daily meditation practice can help me in the grief garden of weeds and seeds. The widows' life can unfortunately only be experienced. I've had friends tell me to write a book about it. There are so many books. In the first six months, I read 10 or 12 books on the topic of a widow's grief, unexpected death, … [Read more...] about Do You Ever Visit the Grief Garden of Weeds and Seeds?