Drop Your Introvert Label and Delight Yourself with Peace and Success

Karyn Kulenovic invited me to participate in The Integrated Empath Summit earlier this year. Drop Your Label and Delight Yourself with Peace and Success fell into place with this theme for me as a subject for introverts to hear.

Both extroverts and introverts can be empaths with their sensitivity and creativity often being held back instead of released.

If as Kulenovic says, you’re going to use your “unique gifts, and create your success stories personally and in business,” you may have to drop your label.

Here’s a transcript of a portion of our interview of three strengths you have to help you do this.

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Two Marriage-friendly Ways for Wives to Stop Controlling their Husbands

Two marriage friendly ways for wives to stop controlling their husbands

Does your hairdresser ever give you advice as you talk through a situation with her? Or maybe she asks for your ideas or thoughts on an issue? Mine does both. She’s a skilled listener and a curious person.

A couple of years ago she asked me if I knew the Bible tells us women are going to be a controlling nuisance to our husbands.

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16 Then he said to the woman,

“I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain, you will give birth.

And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.”

Ever since that time I’ve wondered if or how we can find at least two marriage friendly ways for wives to stop controlling their husbands. We certainly don’t have to learn every lesson with our mistakes. So let me share some of my own!

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The Introvert’s Guide to Happy Socializing in Coworking Space

The Introvert’s Guide to Happy Socializing in Coworking Space

A shared office space is an increasingly common workspace solution that many business professionals are taking advantage of. This is a type of co-working space that is affordable for contractors, entrepreneurs, and others. It gives you access to professional services, amenities, and equipment that you may otherwise have to pay a fortune for. More than that, it also gives you the ability to make great business connections with others in affiliated fields.

As an introvert, you may be inclined to find a quiet space off in the corner of the shared office and to keep to yourself. There is a good chance that you may feel rather uncomfortable being around so many unfamiliar people. Consider this can negatively impact your work experience. However, this introvert survival guide will help you take full advantage of all that this type of workspace offers.

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Personality: Accept, & Like Yourself for Who You Were Created to Be

Personality: Accept, & Like Yourself for Who You Were Created to Be

As true as it is sad, many introverts today sometimes see no real value in who they are. Often, they just don’t like themselves. Despite the fact, we, as introverts, may put so much energy and effort into changing ourselves, doing our best to behave more like someone more extroverted more often and many of us are still unhappy with who we are.

It’s time to stop it.

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You Might Say Coincidence, Serendipity; I Would Say God

We each have times of our life that can seem as if the stress of a situation is unbearable. Surely you’ve had one? In particular, when the unbearable brings to light a miracle, You Might Say Coincidence, Serendipity; I Would Say, God

For me, one time was when my dad fell at age 92 and broke his femur bone. How in the world can you be blessed to be that old, never breaking a bone, and then breaking the strongest bone in your body?

Intuitively, his fall for me seemed to be a prediction of things to come. I found comfort and strength through my daily prayer and meditation more than anything else. In this post I share some of the Bible verses that helped me through this anxious time.

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How To Make Two Steps To Guard Ourselves For Amazing Positivity

How To Make Two Steps To Guard Ourselves For Amazing Positivity

Early this year when you may have set your New Year resolutions, I chose my “one word”  to guide me in my life. Surrender.

With close to a dozen family, health and life issues brewing worry, fear, anxiety and even anger were stirring in me. Each situation dug its claws into me when they were starting just a little over two years ago. If I fought back on my own, or ignored them, I’m not sure where I would be today. Nor do I know of what the state of the situations would. But for me, surrender, actions, and mindset all helped me through all of it.

Family can be messy with conflicts, financial pressures, marital issues, deaths, and illness. When such situations happen, we can live with negative thinking in our mind, and then we find we may not be able to succeed in our life the way God intends for us. Our efforts to do anything positive or can become very hard to achieve because of our mindset.

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Negative thinking can cause just about everything in our life to be unstable, including our spiritual life. My assumption number one: we have a spiritual life. I know some don’t.

How To Make Two Steps To Guard Ourselves For Amazing Positivity

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Use Your Personality Better to Stand Out from Others #infographic

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Instead of trying to be something different why not use your personality to stand out from others? In preparing for a guest speaker program, not all ideas make it to the platform. But as with a couple of events in my husband’s and my life, just because some movie moments make it to the cutting room floor, hardly means they are wasted.

Sometimes, to stand out, you may find you try too hard or go too far. It’s difficult to say in my coaching experiences, how many of those of us more introverted may have claimed something like, “If only I were more extroverted.” That can be extreme. Going to the extreme is not always the best way to make yourself stand out from others.

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Top Easy #waystogrow Part Time Business After Retirement

Top Easy #waystogrow Part Time Business After Retirement

Top Easy #waystogrow Part Time Business After RetirementEven for someone more introverted, #waystogrow Part Time Business After Retirement brings its challenges. These days life is unpredictable, unstable and uncertain. Anxiety is present before we factor in our fears of this time of life.

But wait! As I think back over my decades, both work and life challenges can accompany us at any stage in life.

If you’re a baby boomer like me, you know whether you are retired or close to it, our retirement in not our parent’s retirement.

By reflecting on life more as a journey, an adventure, maybe we can find it more satisfying. Whether you were a small businessperson, entrepreneur or working as an employee if you have a desire or need there is still work after retirement.

Note: This is not a post to help you learn how working and earning and income in the USA could affect your Social Security httpss://www.ssa.gov/planners/retire/selfemp.html . You’ll need to do some research on that aspect.

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How Introverts Can Leverage Cold Email Versus Cold Calling or Networking

How Introverts Can Leverage Cold Email Versus Cold Calling or Networking

If you’re an introvert, you probably already know that you hate cold calling and networking. You probably hate calling a restaurant for reservations, let alone calling someone on the phone to discuss business or sales.

You’re not alone. For those on the receiving end, cold calling is also not a favorite. After all, it seems so spammy, right?

Cold calling, however, still exists for a reason, and that reason is that it does work if you’re a skilled caller. Unfortunately, it can be very difficult for some introverts to overcome their dislike of telephone conversations enough to actually become one of those skilled callers.

Luckily, on the other hand, you aren’t stuck with cold calling in order to get your point across. You can easily take advantage of cold emailing, and see much of the same results.

Whatever you do, don’t let someone tell you that because you’re an introvert, you won’t be good at sales. In fact, many introverts are great at sales. This is for the simple reason that they’re much better an interpersonal connections. When they do connect with someone, it’s at a deeper level. This can make them better at both sympathizing with a consumer’s need, and helping them create a solution to their problem.

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How to move beyond small talk: a step-by-step guide

How to move beyond small talk: a step-by-step guide

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Have you ever found yourself at an event stuck answering boring questions like “what do you do?” or “where are you from?” and wondering what to talk about next?

I call this the Small Talk Trap.

At first, everything seems to be going well, but after a few basic questions the conversation stalls. Due to my introversion, I often found myself talking to extroverts and stuck in the Small Talk Trap. As a result, my conversations would fizzle. Eventually, the other person would say something like, “Okay… nice to meet you…” while walking away.

It took me a lot of reading and some uncomfortable experimentation to find a way out of the Small Talk Trap. Today, I want to share the simple system I use to get to an interesting conversation.

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