Self Assurance Is A Position That Is All Yours

Thank you to Alan B. Densky, hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner, for this guest article: (image of brain on hypnosis by wikipedia)

Self-confidence can be described as the capacity to trust oneself as well as one’s skills. This characteristic is critical to an individual’s accomplishments throughout one’s lifetime. This attribute helps people to understand in their self-worth and that they are capable of succeeding in their endeavors. Even persons who lack this trait can begin to boost their self confidence.

Without self-confidence, a number of people are powerless to achieve life goals. They tend to be unsuccessful in interpersonal interactions, educational attempts, and employment situations. They frequently develop a social phobia, and are uncomfortable in social settings. Individuals who lack self-confidence may hesitate to work to set or labor toward goal accomplishment; they become convinced that they are about to fall short. They are convinced that they are not as good or as capable as those around them. They sometimes do fall short because of their lack of belief in themselves.

In contrast, the one who is successful in gaining self confidence will be strong enough to change this downward spiral and achieve treatment for this social phobia. Such a person will find that increasing self confidence causes sizable improvements in relationships and educational endeavors. At times, an employment prospect might occur because of steps taken to boost self-confidence.

Individuals might not boost self-confidence for several reasons. They might have had overbearing parents, or been teased frequently in school. Some struggled academically or socially. Others simply did not have success at making friends or encounter the affirming support of classmates, parents, or teachers. Many of these persons fight against a self-perception of inferiority and uselessness.

Too often, people who were not able to gain self confidence during childhood are unable to do this as adults. They have been unable to learn how to effect this, and usually learn only if they look for the aid and support of peers or trained professionals. Too many people are ashamed to admit these difficulties in their lives, and instead continue to struggle along throughout their lives.

A number of approaches have been utilized to assist persons to gain self confidence. Many types of counseling therapies, such as behavioral therapy or group treatments, can be used to instruct clients how to build self confidence. Numerous self-help guides have been designed to help clients to build self-confidence. Therapists even offer seminars and retreats structured to help others gain self confidence.

Although all of these strategies may be helpful, two innovative methods that are easily learned and incredibly successful for a majority of individuals who try them are confidence hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP. Specialists who practice confidence hypnotherapy are often capable of coaching clients to develop self-confidence and greatly upgrade both their viewpoints and their chances to achieve in life.

Classic hypnotherapy (using post-hypnotic suggestions) is often very effective. It is most useful with those who are suggestible and easily directed. This type of therapy typically does not work as well with individuals who are more methodical or think critically.

For people who fit this latter category, Ericksonian hypnotherapy and NLP strategies are much more successful. These tools are superb for successfully communicating with the subconscious, which is the seat of our emotions. This occurs because they bypass the resistance that analytical people have to the more traditional suggestion type of hypnosis.

One of the NLP techniques that individuals are usually taught to gain self confidence is called anchoring. This is a normal experience. For instance, if you encounter a song from the past, and have sensations of deja vu, it’s because your unconscious related the sensations from a past time, with the music that was playing during that time. So hearing the music once more, the subconscious triggers the feelings connected with it. So the song is an anchor for those sensations.

Through anchoring, individuals are coached to recall an instance that caused them to experience the feelings of confidence. As they remember and relive those sensations, they are instructed to touch two fingers together. The subconscious then associates the sensations of confidence with this behavior. If the individual argues that he or she has no recollection of ever feeling confident, they may construct a fantasy where he or she does see himself being confident, and then anchor those feelings of confidence.

After anchoring the feelings of confidence, on those occasions that necessitate self-confidence, anchoring triggers the feelings of confidence for use in the present situation.

An alternative NLP technique called the “Flash” can be used to instantaneously substitute stressful emotions, which are sometimes connected with low self-confidence. Because of this method, the person diverts the mental pictures that create a negative feeling, to trigger visual pictures to generate a good emotion.

For instance, the individual programs the subconscious to employ the visual images that cause emotions of uncertainty, as triggers for visual cues that cause feelings of self-confidence. Mental images trigger an individual’s emotions.

We all have dreams, and aspirations. A number of people learn to strive toward these to realize their desires. Sometimes, however, people permit their low self-confidence to overpower them. Even though NLP does not successfully treat every person, the vast majority of persons who try this technique have reported significant success in building self confidence. This therapy is in fact, more useful than alternative techniques for most people.

Summary: Individuals who do not possess self-confidence frequently may struggle with failure in the majority areas of life. A number of components cause people to develop social phobias or the feeling of incompetence. Several strategies have been developed to help individuals to boost self-confidence. NLP has often been reported to be very beneficial by most people who have adopted this technique.

Alan B. Densky is a hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner. He offers effective hypnosis CDs for social phobias and confidence. His self hypnosis for confidence CDs were independently reviewed in the UK. Visit his Neuro-VISION hypnosis site to watch free hypnosis videos.

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