What if Introverts Didn’t Have to Compete with Extroverts?

Just recently I was reading the Blue Ocean Strategy (BOS) blog post, From Blue Ocean Strategy to Blue Ocean Leadership, when it occurred to me:

What if introverts have to compete with extroverts?

Of course maybe it’s just a feeling that we have to compete. Either way, if it’s a feeling or if it’s true, I think the BOS can help us hone our advantage.

Are you familiar with Blue Ocean Strategy (BOS)?

My discovery of it came out of a failed partnership in a tee shirt company a few years back. Learning about the BOS concept was one of my business takeaways although in working with five other partners we did not adhere to the concepts, which possibly contributed to our demise.red_ocean_surfaceTM

W. Chan Kim and Renee Mauborgne present the concept in a 2005 book of the same title. It’s a metaphor that contrasts the wide openness of a blue ocean (unknown and untapped markets) with an overpopulated red ocean (traditional and crowded competitive markets.)

What’s relevant about it for the more introverted of us? Maybe we could use it in part, for our organizational leaders or colleagues we work to look at our abilities and energy to contribute to greater performance?

Let’s have a little fun and apply part of the BOS strategy to a workshop like exercise.

We’ll start with we (introverts and extroverts alike) are all considering be partners in a new blogging platform.

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Smart Introvert Number One Rule

We are not extroverts.

Sometimes we might forget this, at least this introvert does. But not being more extroverted doesn’t mean we can’t engage in and enjoy extroverting activities.

Introvert actions are usually done by one self while extroverting includes others.

Introverting and extroverting include actions as well as preferences or being labels to help us to understand personality differences.

Think about times you spend extroverting in activities like hosting a small dinner party with friends, vacationing someplace new or attending your high school or college football game with a few friends.

Then ask yourself did you enjoy the event?

It would be a safe assumption that for the most part, you did.

But if you were to find yourself in a whirlwind of such extroverting activities, and you were asked the same question, you would probably say you weren’t all that happy about a week long of party after party after party.

Give me a week of quietly interesting activities anytime.

Smart introvert number one rule

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How Do You Get In The Flow When You’re Not In The Flow?

Late last year at a networking event I won three door prizes: 2 restaurant gift cards, one for Mexican and one for sushi, and an over night weekend stay at a local big name hotel. I was waiting for something special to celebrate and then the day was on the calendar.

It was my husband’s birthday and time to cash in on all these gifts.

There’s always more to life than only what we see in any situation. 

How do you get in the flow when you’re not in the flow?

My husband introduced me to the car hobby years ago. Since then we’ve owned a few collector cars and still have just one. The best discovery is car shows provide so much entertainment even when you are down to one collector and two daily drivers.

- First possible turn to move in the flow

Normally at car shows, we spend a minimum of about 90 minutes going through, and walk up and down each aisle. Every so often we stop and “oooo” and “aaahhh” at particular cars catching our attention for one reason or another.

under_the_hood_flowOne car at this show, a 2005 Cobra, gave new meaning to the phrase, “look under the hood.”

Our best guestimate is to oogle at about 300 different makes and models of cars and motorcycles took less than 25 minutes to walk through. Right. Not many oohs and aahhs happening.

Then we realized it would be an hour too early to check in to the hotel room, so what to do? How do we get in the flow again?

A celebratory dinner drink seemed to be in order. We decided to stop at a restaurant only my husband had been to before: friendly servers, and gorgeous woodwork at the bar.

The hour flew by (maybe it was that spicy rum and tonic) and we were ready to head to the hotel room check in.

- Staying in the flow with the hotel free weekend night

The hotel is in a shopping and business complex. The view from our room was splendid overlooking a lovely fountain and entrance to the shopping and new 12 choices movie theatre.

This kind of big theatre is new in our area. We bantied around some ideas of what movie we might want to see. But alas, out of the flow again.

Twelve movies to choose from and not one of them excited either of us. We discussed going if only one of us liked any movie. The unexpected bonus for the evening wasn’t going to happen. It was disappointing.

Leaving the theatre lobby we headed to dinner, an unexpected bump to get back in the flow. We saw a mime. mime_flowIn our area, this is a step up from a hot-dog and hamburger kind of life to steak and potatoes. It felt wonderful as our luck was changing.

It did indeed.

- Crowded restaurant but no wait

One of the restaurant’s gift certificate for was a favorite cuisine of both of us, but not anything we eat regularly. It was encouraging when this crowded, no doubt popular, Mexican restaurant had no line.

Our experience with Mexican restaurants is the service is always fast. And so it was here. We had a wonderful tasty dinner and then began a leisurely walk back to the hotel.

On the way we had a brilliant idea: with the evening still early, why don’t we just rent a movie in the hotel room?

Have you ever done this? We do it so infrequently but it seemed like a perfect end to a totally fun weekend adventure costing us very little.

- A hotel without a pay per movie option in 2014

fountain_view_flowWhen we arrive in the hotel room, we’re puzzled not being able to find “Movies” on the television screen. My husband asked me to try because he didn’t have his reading glasses. I tried, but like him, no movies option. There was the room book, in clear sight, so I grabbed it and turned to the section “In-room movies.”

The page confirmed, we were doing everything right.

Let it go, was what we each said to each other as I put the instructions down. But being curious, I wanted to know, had the instructions changed? Was our television not connected somehow? And besides, it was getting late and I needed to put the parking decal on our car’s rearview mirror so we wouldn’t be towed. “I’ll be back in a few minutes,” I whispered as I left the room.

After taking care of the decal, I stopped at the front desk and asked, “Just how do we dial up a pay per view movie in our room?”

The two front desk clerks looked at each other. For that instant I thought, “Geez am I a ditz or what?”

“Well,” the woman giggled. “We no longer have in-room movie rentals.”

I couldn’t believe it, and that’s what I blurted out.

I shook my head and grabbed the elevator that happened to be waiting to take me back to our room.

My husband and I giggled about how silly that a hotel would not have in-room movie to purchase is in 2014. A movie wasn’t meant to be.

Making the best of enjoying the evening, we snuggled up, and fell asleep musing about our day and laughing about the worst parts.

Did we stay in the flow of the weekend? Indeed we did:

–       We made lemonade from any lemons put in our way. Whether it was the disappointing car show or the lack of a movie to watch, we mostly giggled at what happened when it wasn’t what we quite expected.

–       We experienced it all, including the unexpected treat of meeting a mime on our city street.

–       We reminded ourselves that 90% of our weekend was free. Free! Why not have gratitude for one of the best parts. It’s particularly uplifting to be thankful for what is, instead of getting caught in being negative too long about what is not.

How do you get in the flow when you’re not in the flow?


Raffle Fun and Free Giveaway for: Communication Toolkit for Introverts

With a book release being somewhat like a roller coaster of events, there is really, no time like the present for all things marketing. Besides… I’m one who likes to have fun no matter what is happening, and it is time for some raffle fun and a free giveaway.

Raffle Fun and Free Giveaway for: Communication Toolkit for Introverts

Since the publisher has one hold-up, due to an issue with the final editing staff, it’s still time to keep going. The twist of it is, to have some fun during the wait!

The publisher is more than agreeable to make several copies (PDF and paperback) available for this. You’ll see there are 3 (three) different prizes.

I’m using Rafflecopter to make life easy! Rafflecopter has the tools that a) randomly selects a number of winners from the entrants pool b) help to verify the winners’ entries & c) announce the winners directly on the widget.

All raffle entry details and your chance to enter are below, starting Friday August 29, 2014 at 6am EST. It will end on Friday September 19, 2014 at 6am EST.

I will post winners names the week of September 22, 2014.

So whether you call it a raffle or sweepstake, these books are given away to winners selected at random, at no cost regardless of the format.

Good luck.

a Rafflecopter giveaway

Ah if only there were other kinds of “Copters” for other life situations.

Imagine this with me: you’ve written a book, it’s all edited, but the book is stuck some where in between the final edit and proof and the publication.

A “PublishCopter” approaches and hovers over the publisher.

“PublisherCopter” creates enough turbulence with it’s wings that every word on every page falls right into place.

Next thing is the book goes to print.

“PublishCopter” is printing out copies for distribution through Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and others.

Your book launch and book tour has begun. Oh wait!

I’m not at this stage yet. It sure was feeling good though.

But remember, it’s time for some fun. There are plenty of ways for you to enter.

The prizes are plentiful: 3 copies of the downloadable PDF, 1 copy of the paperback, and 1 copy of the paperback with a coaching session if you would like.

Much thanks to the generosity of my publisher.

On to the raffle fun and free giveaways for you. 

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Bad drama and good stories for introverts to navigate

good_and_bad_dramaI’m a sucker for assessments. Personal assessments. I found one today you might be interested in about how to communicate from your strengths. You know my rant about using your strengths as someone more introverted? That’s what drew me to it. Plus, it’s free; even more of a draw. I’ll share it with you at the end – or jump to the end now. It’s there.

I didn’t like the results of this assessment. Hahaha.

It identified my two top strengths and revealed a quieter strength that I have which I don’t often use. Why the heck did I have to focus on the negative again?

That got me to thinking about bad and good drama.

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