Intellectually, I could not imagine that almost four years after my husband's unexpected death that a visit to a long put off "close his bank account" could trigger the horrendous rush of feelings. Some of my worst grief triggers come up suddenly. Most of my triggers over these last years are from incredible memories triggered by a movie or a song. These kinds of flashbacks … [Read more...] about What Are Your Worst Grief Triggers ?
Since my husband died almost 4 years ago, I continue to learn how a daily meditation practice can help me in the grief garden of weeds and seeds. The widows' life can unfortunately only be experienced. I've had friends tell me to write a book about it. There are so many books. In the first six months, I read 10 or 12 books on the topic of a widow's grief, unexpected death, … [Read more...] about Do You Ever Visit the Grief Garden of Weeds and Seeds?
After my husband died, I wondered, how can I trust God day by day? Over time, I learned to trust God with my finances, and that took years. However, that realization helped me to trust God with my ability to tithe. More than that, I let go of my husband's "need" for bigger and better toys. Over the years, I trusted God with family issues. Most of us may stop talking with a … [Read more...] about Why Should I Trust God Day By Day as a Widow?
Are you allowing yourself to open up to let God work his plan in your widows season? Identifying a topic for the upcoming week's savvy senior widows blog can be challenging. Unintentionally, I was blocking hearing from God. Actually, even praying became blocked in preparing to write this week's blog post. Was I really ready to let God work His plan in this? Then, I began … [Read more...] about Can You Open Up to Let God Work His Plan in Your Widows Season
When Will Joy and Laughter Fill Our Savvy Senior Widow Life? Laughter will come to widows to help us begin to heal. Today, 3 1/2 years after Marty died, one thing I know for sure, I don't and can't control a darn thing in life. Not. One. Thing. At first, even when the sun shines, the first few months of grief are the most cloud-covered time. Maybe it was realizing I … [Read more...] about When Will Joy and Laughter Fill Our Savvy Senior Widow Life?
Why is there No Map for Our Grief? When my husband died, I wanted to find or have someone tell me what to do. Someone, please give me a map for grief, if you find one. First of all, there is no map for grief. The mechanics of changing names on accounts, planning the service, getting copies of the death certificate, and a never-ending stream of first action items are … [Read more...] about There is No Map for Grief