It never occurred to me I could move forward as a widow. But I discovered with my holistic and chakra healer; I use the Move Forward as a Widow with How You Know it’s Time to Get Off the Toilet Intuition. Or I just know how and when. Without a map for any of us widowed, women and men, the reality is it's up to us to invent our map. Have you ever had non-widow friends, … [Read more...] about Move Forward as a Widow with How You Know it’s Time to Get Off the Toilet Intuition
Let's be praying for widows and widowers on National Prayer Day. And every day. I know some of you do pray. I know some of you question, is there a God? Heck, my husband was agnostic until he knew he was going to die. But May seems to be an excellent month for those of us grieving, for however long that lasts and to whatever degree of pain, our husband or wife. Here … [Read more...] about Praying for Widows and Widowers on National Prayer Day
In Job 1:21, the bible says, (and this also can apply to dating) "He gives and takes away." Job suffered unexpected disasters - his 10 children died, and his entire estate vanished. All of this in one day! But unlike Satan predicted, Job never cursed God. I do not claim to be one iota like Job. Not even close. In the 10 months my dad, husband, and mom died, I recall that I … [Read more...] about Even in Dating He Gives and Takes Away
Do you ever get so worked up about rebuilding life as a widow, a senior one at that, and you cannot hear yourself think? Am I the only one? When everything becomes so much mumbo jumbo in your head, you want to grab your dammit doll and split its seams wide open? The Dammit Doll is still holding together. Truth is, he's my second one in four years. A close friend gifted … [Read more...] about Rebuilding Life as a Widow
Intellectually, I could not imagine that almost four years after my husband's unexpected death that a visit to a long put off "close his bank account" could trigger the horrendous rush of feelings. Some of my worst grief triggers come up suddenly. Most of my triggers over these last years are from incredible memories triggered by a movie or a song. These kinds of flashbacks … [Read more...] about What Are Your Worst Grief Triggers ?
Since my husband died almost 4 years ago, I continue to learn how a daily meditation practice can help me in the grief garden of weeds and seeds. The widows' life can unfortunately only be experienced. I've had friends tell me to write a book about it. There are so many books. In the first six months, I read 10 or 12 books on the topic of a widow's grief, unexpected death, … [Read more...] about Do You Ever Visit the Grief Garden of Weeds and Seeds?