I’m a sucker for assessments. Personal assessments. I found one today you might be interested in about how to communicate from your strengths. You know my rant about using your strengths as someone more introverted? That’s what drew me to it. Plus, it’s free; even more of a draw. I’ll share it with you at the end – or jump to the end now. It’s there.
I didn’t like the results of this assessment. Hahaha.
It identified my two top strengths and revealed a quieter strength that I have which I don’t often use. Why the heck did I have to focus on the negative again?
That got me to thinking about bad and good drama.
Our drama can be stories about a life event we get so enthralled with we tell ourselves, and anyone who listens.
Many coaches talk about it being something that might have gone wrong and then spirals to keeping you on edge and stuck. It can cause lack of sleep, being sick to the stomach or even unexpected weight loss. But being stuck in bad drama is no way to lose weight.
Stinking bad drama
A few years ago when I was going through my coach training I volunteered to have some “laser” coaching. This is my style of coaching so I love it: cut to the chase.
As the coach was asking me questions I could feel the drama of it all. A particularly concerning situation had me stuck. She cleverly pointed out, how the drama was playing out in my life elsewhere. “What?” I asked. “You were telling us about the squirrels in your yard that you cannot seem to get rid of,” she remarked. “Can you see this is just another kind of environment that leaves you feeling this way?”
She was right. I kept telling myself the drama story so much it started to leak out into other areas of my life.
Sometimes coaches can get down to things so quickly; almost laser like.
Most of us don’t realize when we get caught in a drama story. Our thoughts seem so real and we are on the stage. It’s unbelievably difficult to get out of it.
There can be happy drama too, although this is not the stage of the so called, “drama queen.” It could be something fabulous going on in life. These stories, like a bad drama, are worth telling everyone about. Usually it feels like they flow from day to day, and can cause some singing and spontaneous happy dancing. It’s when we feel connected to something bigger than ourselves.
Nah. We don’t need a coach for that! But they could be another person to share the happiness with.
For those of you who I am connected with on LinkedIn or Facebook, you may recall the first four months of the year were pure hell, just wicked for me.
But here is the most fabulous thing.
My Google penalty was lifted, the two family members who had possible life threatening situations facing them are on their feet again, even my upcoming is getting near release. Hahaha. I’ve been saying any minute ever since my LinkedIn friend Myra Goldick coined that phrase in our fun on one of her radio shows.
Then things shifted. It’s been going happy since then. Up to this dang assessment.
Good drama trumps bad drama
When I took this assessment I was tempted to fall back into that yucky, bad, take-me-down drama: “Oh geez, why can’t that advantage strength be mine? Why does it have to be this one?” Let me put on that drama mask.
Maybe I’m a slow learner with this drama stuff. It took me overnight to shift my thinking more to, “Hey these two advantages. How awesome is that! How did I miss just how they help me every day? Why did I not understand this is what sometimes brings on that sweet happy drama in my life?”
Of course, life quizzed me. A possible small setback was on the rise.
What did I do?
I communicated from my newly found, and appreciated strengths.
Got right back in the good drama flow of things.
Do you ever get stuck in your bad drama?
How quickly do you shift?
How do you go back to a happier state of being?
You can take the assessment I mentioned for free if you like. There’s nothing in it for me. For you, it claims to help you communicate from your strengths.