AWAKE #introverts! How to go from good to best Affirmations

Maybe you’re just a little like me: the tried and true affirmations don’t work for me. In my new Scoping series, the second episode is, AWAKE #introverts! How to go from good to best Affirmations You can listen live every Friday on Periscope  Or sometimes my Facebook fan page,  Or if you prefer to read, catch a summarized blog post of each Scope episode.

AWAKE is an acronym to help know and remember what each part will review and cover.

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AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable

If you are more of an introvert and want to get your voice heard in any business or life situation, the AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable series could be just for you!

Over at Periscope and even Facebook live, on most Fridays, you’ll be able to participate in the conversation of the AWAKE formula.

Or maybe you want to sit, listen and reflect and are quite satisfied with other viewers live, in the background. You can do this on Twitter! If you follow me on Twitter, you’ll get my Tweet announcing the live stream is going.

In using what could be a meaningful introvert acrostic, you can discover:

AWAKE #Introvert: How to Go from Fear to Remarkable

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How To Manage Most Stressful Situations To Find Peace

How To Manage Most Stressful Situations To Find Peace

On a previous post,  I mentioned a time when my 88-year-old mother was in an ambulance on the way to the emergency room from long-term care.

Where is the joy in that?

In an inconceivable situation like this, I’ve found that to stay in the moment or be totally present is possible even if you cannot find joy. Pausing when I took the call, for just 8 seconds to breathe deeply in and out, (by the way not even noticed by the nurse) I was able to speak calmly and ask questions about her condition.

Peace in the moment is all I wanted, not necessarily joy.

My online blogger friend Phoenicia commented, “That would probably be the last thing most people would do at that moment.

Being joyful always is humanly not possible with every situation of each day. Depending what a person might do in a similar situation in 8 seconds of breathing, can either help ease stress if there is any – or increase any negative emotions.

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How to Easily Find Peace in Most Stressful Situations

how to easily find peace in most stressful situations

Here is the sound of joy:

That’s my youngest granddaughter when she was almost three years old.

Unless we are swinging on a swing all day long, there are going to be times in our life or days where something blocks us from joy.

Sometimes our to-do list can have an over abundance of items. Often information, whether we need it or not, seems to come to us non-stop. Life events can take twists and turns that never crossed our radar screen.

Can you relate to the change of pace or situations that can suck you into negative feelings in similar ways?

how to easily find peace in most stressful situations

I belong to a small group at the church I attend. While I always benefit from our pastor’s message, these small groups allow us to go deeper into what the over all theme might be that week or month.

Usually, a small group has 7 or 8 people at most. No one gets pressure to contribute. In total, the meetings last about 90 minutes. These small groups are perfect for the introvert!

A few weeks ago we studied about being joyful in all circumstances. When hearing similar advice in a mastermind group I’m in, it was a prompting to go to the Bible to find ways to be in joy more often as a way to find peace in more stressful situations.

Always be joyful. 1 Thessalonians 5:16 (NLT) 

This bible verse doesn’t say in good times. It doesn’t say most of the time. There is not any time delineation about when to start and when to stop being joyful. Always is the first word.

This verse is as clear as can be: always. Take any synonym you prefer to put in the word always place, and the meaning stays the same.

Maybe you have a, “But what about when ….?”

Often a situation isn’t easy to be joyful. My 88-year-old mother was in an ambulance on the way to the emergency room from long-term care. This situation is just the kind to stay in the moment or be totally present. Taking the call from the floor nurse, was just enough time to get centered. The nurse didn’t seem to notice the pause of just 8 seconds to breathe deeply in and out. With that little reprieve I could speak calmly and ask questions.

How-to-Easily-Find-Peace-in-Most-Stressful-SituationsTaking a pause, or being mindful in the moment, is about being present. When something knocks me on my butt these days, and if the situation allows for, I take a full 16 seconds to breathe in and out as I learned on my meditation retreat with davidji. You can read more about the meditation retreat experience if you any interest.

Then a whisper in my mindfulness, “Always be joyful,” and I could feel the slightest curl on both sides of my mouth.

Getting the information needed allowed me to telephone my sisters who live within an hour of mom and give them the best update.

But as I lost my center with the day moving on, I lost my joy. I started to get anxious. The thoughts were running like a freight train through my head.

I recently read that anxious (like worry) is being fearful of what might happen in the future, and anxiety is worrying about the past. They both rob you of peace.

If you can, imagine a time where you got a telephone call or some other communication about a dire situation?

Maybe you manage to stay present, be mindful of the moment to assess the situation and have clear communications.

You might be either calmer or further along in your mindfulness and other spiritual path practices than I am. If so you likely don’t get rattled about anything.

Please do tell us, how do you find your peace in stressful situations?

If you’re at about the same point in the journey, then it’s likely you know worry can happen next.How-to-Easily-Find-Peace-in-Most-Stressful-Situations

My sense is it, since we process differently, that an introvert may withdraw more during difficult times. Some studies bear out that extroverts cope with stress more actively. I know my extrovert husband will spurt his thoughts and feeling right then.

Maybe I was in one of these studies since I know I tend at first to be quiet. Since introvert brains are hardwired to process through a longer path of neuron connections, the difference in the two styles seems to make sense.

It also may be a gender-specific coping with stress. There’s actual physical evidence that there are 1 of 3 hormones released during a stressful situation affecting women longer term. 

There are three verses in 1 Thessalonians to consider to remember if you want to know,

how to easily find peace in most stressful situations

I hope you’ll join me in the next post to find out what the next two verses are and how you can put them to work for you in practical ways.

Be joyful, pray continuously, be thankful in all circumstances.

 

Parts originally posted 2008.

Top Easy Ways For #Extroverts To Be More Like #Introverts

Top Easy Ways For #Extroverts To Be More Like #Introverts:

Patricia Weber and Bob McIntosh talk about how extroverts would like to be more like introverts

Is it us, or is it every day that an article or blog post alert has something about how introverts can become more like extroverts?

Bob McIntosh, and I saw a post on LinkedIn from an extrovert stating he believed he had some introvert tendencies. How exciting! If you’re an introvert, you now know that an extrovert somewhere might want to shift gears into being more introverted.

Then we talked among ourselves about any reality to extroverts who want to become more like introverts.

After some talking and thinking, we came up with an astounding – yes! Take a look at what some extroverts have told us.

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