Do you make New Years Resolutions? Years ago I ended that routine. It gets so self-defeating to make a resolution, or even a goal, only to find struggle and excuses to soon lead to quitting.
What I found was I would feel bad, beat up on myself and find myself going in a revolving door the next year.
Research statistics range from 50% to 80% of people making new year resolutions and then by the end of February people giving up. When I worked out at the local gym it we so obvious. I had to wait in line for certain equipment for about two months and then, people disappeared. All systems go again.
Further research states an amazing 88% of those resolutions fail.Yep; that’s what I was saying about myself feeling bad, and setting myself up for negative self-talk.
It’s clear isn’t it, “Houston, we have a problem!” That’s why I think mantras or intentions work better than resolutions or revolutions.
In my experiences willpower and affirmations just are ineffective with realizing resolutions. It’s just too much on my brain.
This past year I had a daily mantra, “Every day, every way, inspired,” which help me to release more joy and confidence in my life. I am still working on this years mantra because I know it served me well in my overall outlook ever day.
I did find some help with taking on new behaviors, thanks of all things, to an app! It’s an app I just love. Somehow, it’s made certain tasks I want to do more instinctive, including a couple of little features to sweeten the intent.
The app I use is Coach.me – you can find it online and download an app for your smartphone, whatever it is. Maybe you want to consider it, or something like it?
Tracking your intentions like a habit
In the summer of last year, I decided to practice gratitude journaling every day. Using my typical paper journal had always failed in the past even if I made it a resolution. So I asked myself, how can I make this habit happen with certainty? Technology can be good. I realized my cell phone is with me daily so why not, look for an app? After finding all kinds of gratitude journal apps, I somehow discovered Coach.me. It was both online and an app. Perfect.
After a slow, slow start, the rhythm of being grateful for at least 3 to 5 things on a daily basis now pulls me in every day almost a year later.
One thing that helps is Lift is set up for reminders to your cell phone. I get them every morning. While now, Journal What You’re Grateful About is a habit, reminders are always helpful in times of traveling, or when there is a negative stressor I’m dealing with.
Quiet community support to keep your intentions
Even though I tend to be more introverted, motivation can inspire me. In any habit you might commit to you will find community. In that community, Lift has a simple mechanism called Props, a thumbs up. As soon as someone either thumbs up or comments on your checking off that particular habit, you get notification. It’s like a cheering squad!
Plans if you want them to achieve intentions
Plans for me is a word like resolutions; I find them demotivating if I don’t act on and follow them through. You guessed it: Lift makes it fun. Let’s say you want to plan to – get your email InBox to zero each week in 30 days. Then that is the plan goal, and name, and you create 30 steps to doing this. Lift people look at your plan for approval and app wide sharing, or you can share it with friends.